Virgo Tips for Finding a Soul Mate

Hi Jordan, 

I came to the site seeking guidance in an up and down relationship that I've been in the last 4 years. Unfortunately, I don't really have anyone in my life that I feel comfortable talking to about it. We met in high school and are both 20 now, soon to be 21. She is a Libra 

We've had more than our share of fights. In fact it seems like we're always arguing with each other about something. We've nearly broken up on a number of occasions. She's gained a significant amount of weight since we started dating (and hasn't really shown interest in changing), has become increasingly insecure, clingy and childish. I've felt hesitant about our relationship from day one, but we hit it off and started dating and I fell in love. However, I've always been a skeptical person. I'm still not sure what being in love actually is, if I'm truly in love, if my being skeptical is a good enough reason for breaking up, etc, etc. In any case, I came across your site and decided to follow the guide on creating your soulmate. I'm not sure if I want that to be who I'm with now or someone else. If it is to be someone else, I'm afraid I don't have the guts to end the current relationship. Anyway, I came up with my list of traits in a soulmate. It's pretty long and some are a little "shallow," but I was told to be specific lol. 


Also, I wanted to mention that I have been consistently working on myself, though I know I could do more. (I lost 30 pounds in the last 6 months, have been studying my interests diligently, keeping well groomed, being more positive, etc). 

Interesting sense of humor; dry, quirky, a little dirty or silly 
Adventurous 
Loves to laugh 
Doesn’t take herself too seriously 
Accepting 
Full of joy 
Loving 
Supportive 
Understanding 
A little edgy 
Easy to please 
Loves to make me happy 
A little kinky 
Fit 
Stays fit and healthy, but doesn’t take it too seriously 
Petite frame but a little above average height, maybe 5’ 6” or 5’ 7” 
Loyal 
wants a few kids, more than 1, less than 6 
Loves old video games 
Loves 90’s music 
Loves card games 
Loves board games 
Great listener 
Wonderful at having conversations 
Not demanding 
Not clingy, but doesn’t push me away; just wants to be with me, but doesn’t complain when we’re not together as if it’s my fault 
Loves animals, but not an animal rights activist 
Has an amazing ability to keep me calm 
Patient 
Very secure with herself 
Loves to read 
Loves action movies, dramas and comedies, especially the ones I like 
Has an interest in computers 
Loves to talk about my interests 
Loves to listen to me talk about my interests 
Medium sized, perky breasts. Seemingly the perfect size and shape for her frame. 
Thigh gap of about 2” 
Slender legs, knees and feet 
Slender face, but not with overly pronounced features. A soft looking face, easy on the eyes 
A soft, loving voice 
Encouraging 
Looks just as pretty without makeup on and she likes that 
Knows how to put make up on so she looks stunning 
Straightforward and honest 
Not overly critical 
Clean and neat 
Independent 
No baggage 
Young at heart, but knows when to get serious 
Not overly cutesy or childish 
Emotionally secure 
Athletic 
Intelligent 
Enjoys political discussions from time to time 
Extremely attractive 
Can have children 
Doesn't have any known or unknown serious health issues or risks 
Has a kind and loving family without a history of abuse 
Emotionally supportive of me 
Wants to travel, see the world 
Non obsessive 
Isn’t absorbed in phone, social networks or the like 

Thank you for offering your guidance. I hope to hear back soon. 

Hello Jonathon,

  

Relationships are the strongest way for a person's soul to evolve.  In relationships, there are countless opportunities for one to look within himself or herself and identify areas to work on in order to harness the power of the light.  Most think improving relationships is about improving the people around him or her, and don't realize that instead of focusing on others, redirecting the focus to himself or herself is a more powerful way of evolution.

First, lets start with your current relationship.   Do you feel there are any areas of the relationship that you could improve upon?  If the roles were reversed in your current relationship, would you be satisfied with the energy and emotion your girlfriend displays?  Judgment of others is easy to do and is actually a form of temptation. 

You may want to read the page on the seven virtues and seven deadly sins.  These pages are a great start to learning about how to harness the light, instead of temptation in each thought and action.  Is the energy one holds onto positive, or negative?   Often, people forget the type of energy he or she has within his or her soul affects relationships.

Now, getting to your list on your ideal soul mate... It is clear you spent a lot of time thinking of what it is that you want.  Now if you were to pick the top 10 characteristics from the list below, what would they be?   Now the question is, are you the ideal soul mate for the person you described below?  If you would bump into your soul mate today, would you fit her "dream guy" status or is there any area about yourself that needs fine-tuning.  Part 3 of the "How to Find Your Soul Mate" is actually the most important step in finding that perfect person.  It is the investment of energy in your own soul.

Love and Light,

Jordan Canon

Spiritual Advisor

Free-Spiritual-Guidance.com

Am I Wasting my Time in my Relationship?

Hello Jordan, 

I have received your report. Thank you so much for redoing it. I did notice some significant changes from the last report. However, they don't seem to make the situation any better. This week has been really turbulent for us. Why can't we seem to communicate effectively about anything? We have misunderstandings about the slightest thing almost daily. We are on the verge of breaking up at least once per month. In the heat of an argument he will blurt out how we need to move on from one another. When I agree with him he turns into a ball of emotions, and tells me how much he loves me and I am his world. This is indeed the strangest relationship that I have ever had. Do you see any mental illness in his chart? Am I wasting my time with him?

Marie, Virgo

Good morning Marie,

There are hundreds of souls around the world who submit spiritual counseling questions every day. I answer these in the order they come in. Out of fairness, and as my time permits. I normally don’t reply to emails with questions. In the future you are welcome to submit Spiritual Counseling questions from the link provided. However, I will offer some guidance and a thought for you to consider.

I also do not provide spiritual advice that tells people what to do. Like the universe intended, the gift of free will and the decisions you have and will make, will have a direct effect on the evolution of your soul.

I sense you may have much to still read on the website, especially the pages relating to finding a soul mate, your spiritual astrology reading is intended to help advance the teaching on the website. It certainly will have more value to you once you grasp some of the basic concepts of the website.

But regarding your relationship, and let’s totally take anything you would associate with blame or shortcomings on his part out of the equation (because you can only evolve your own soul) I’d like you to consider this thought:

If you were able to fill out a long and detailed wish list of your perfect soul mate and how your relationship would be today, would the relationship you are in live up to those desires?

If you think the answer might be “No, this is not the relationship I would wish for, even with the understanding that all relationships have ups and downs (spiritually known as yins and yang’s)  then you have some spiritual growth and work to do.

I hope you can see by the number of links I have shared so far, that you may much reading to do. These is no reason to answer your question now. Just reading a spiritual astrology reading on relationship compatibility will not contain your answers. The answers are within your soul, these links and tools are provided to help you make a connection to your soul and harness this energy. If you read just the pages I listed, you may be able to see your question from a different prospective.

The Virgo’s primary power is “I analyze,” which is your gift from the universe. No other sign does it better than you. I hope you can harness some of that energy to define the direction you wish to evolve your soul, as you can only evolve through your relationships.  

I hope that gets you started on a new spiritual journey.

Love and light,

Jordan Canon

www.free-spiritual-guidance.com